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Not so long ago I received a brochure advertising the annual conference for an international human resources foundation. The cover of the brochure announced, "BE A KNOW-IT-ALL! Here's how." The inside of the brochure promised, "Join our Foundation and see how easy it is to know-it-all." As I read this brochure, I wondered if these professionals - I use the term lightly – had contemplated the advantages of "not knowing it all".
Martin Luther called reason "the Devil's harlot." Have you ever noticed how reasonable you are - and how many aspects of your life still don't work all that well? Perhaps the more reasonable you become, the more your life is thrown in disarray. This is the kind of thing that happens when your dreams and your actual life situation are not in harmony. You may have to rise to the occasion by throwing reason out the window and becoming more unreasonable.
While you are questioning your beliefs, why not question your beliefs about the experts of this world? It's easy to be intimidated by people with a lot more experience and credentials to their names than you have to yours. What experts are really good at is making a great case for why something won't work. They will convince many people along the way because they are great at putting up brilliant arguments. The problem is that they don't give consideration to why it may work
Common wisdom has it that there are two certainties in the game of life death and taxes, Here is another one: Keep believing what you have always believed and the degree of your future well-being and success will pretty much match your present state of well-being and success. If your life is not working all that well, start with the premise that your beliefs haven’t served you that entire well. As American humorist Gelett Burgess pointed out, "If in the last few years you haven't discarded a major belief or acquired a new one, check your pulse, You may be dead," The problem with beliefs is they can run - even ruin - your life, In fact, beliefs can become perpetual attachments that hold you in bondage forever.
At some time or another every one of us harbors deeply ingrained hope that someone else will handle the difficult and important events, situations, and tasks that confront us throughout our lives. At the same time we would like the good things in life to come to us as a result of the efforts of others. This is a common phenomenon - it is also insane. Like it or not - and most human beings don't - there are few significant things that anyone will do for us in this world. Alas, reality continues to intrude into our lives and to make life difficult. You have undoubtedly noticed that the more important it is, the less chance that somebody will do it for you.
Do you take many of the things others say about you or do to you personally? Assuming that you are like most people, I would venture to say that the answer is a resounding yes. As a matter of course we all have a natural tendency to overreact to certain actions of other human beings. Taking things personally is more proof of our selfishness. Each and every one of us who takes things personally believes on some level or another that "this world is all about me." To be sure, it's all too easy to take things personally. But you must learn how not to take what others think, say or do personally if happiness is one of your goals. Whether it's getting overlooked for an invitation to an important event, being cut off in traffic, or receiving bad service in a restaurant, don't look at any of these events as an attack or personal slight on you by others. Truth be known, they are doing it to everyone else.
Think of some of the great difficulties that you have experienced over the years - ones that you invited into your life on some level or another. This applies to financial dilemmas, dysfunctional relationships, speeding tickets, lawsuits, time-wasting arguments, health problems, and family feuds. For good measure, you can add any other predicament that you could have bypassed in some way or form. Wouldn't it have been easier to avoid these situations than trying to get out of them later?
German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer concluded that we forfeit three fourths of ourselves to be like other people. One of the reasons we do this is to try to please everyone. As is to be expected, wanting respect and approval from others is natural for human beings. The problem isn't our desire for respect and approval from a few friends and acquaintances, however. What gets us in trouble is the desire to please the whole world. "I cannot give you the formula for success," claimed American journalist Herbert Bayard Swope, "but I can give you the formula for failure which is: Try to please everybody." These words, indeed, are ones to ponder carefully. Way too many people squander most of their time and energy trying to please others instead of focusing on their own hopes, plans, and dreams. Don't be one of them.